1 Question, 3 Answers.

Do you think being homosexual is a choice or a trait that someone is born with?

Paul R, Paul G & Gustav

Gustav Karlbrink, NP2: I think actually it’s a bit of both but I believe most is choice because like 90% of your actions come from where you live and the people that you live with, so I think I think they get it from their own choice.

Paul Rodriguez, SP3A: For me its 50-50 %. It could be the environment that made him/her in to that kind of person or it could be part of his/her genes.

Paul Greco, IB12: Well actually I think it’s different from person to person. Some people are at an early age very clearly prone to what we see as homosexual tendencies and remain that way their whole lives whereas other people often change their sexual leaning later on in life, having been dissatisfied with their experiences with the opposite sex.
Then again that could also mean that they’ve always been gay.

11 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Majid Ahy on September 27, 2010 at 11:21 PM

    Gustav put a lot of “thinking” into this one, haha.


  2. Posted by Miko on September 28, 2010 at 6:15 PM

    you are gay


  3. Posted by Miko on September 28, 2010 at 6:18 PM

    majid looks like a hairy monkey in skatebord


  4. Posted by Raffy on September 29, 2010 at 10:37 AM

    I think it’s 30-70% in this case. I believe people are given the opportunity to make this choice by themselves, because people have more “freedom”/rights now than they had before. People like to try new exciteing things and see where it goes. It might not be allowed in church or other places in society but its not like it was before , where you got punished for it. So, yes I think people choose to become homosexual more than being born with it.


  5. Posted by Nassta on September 29, 2010 at 10:50 AM

    This is a big question today. I don’t think that being gay is a choice, it’s something you are born with. I’ve seen a lot of interviews where homosexual people say ”if i was able to choose i wouldn’t be in this situation right now where people make fun of me and laugh everytime they see me”. Why choose to be gay if it makes you that miserable, so it must mean that it’s something they are born with and that it’s something they can’t change.


  6. Posted by Mariami on September 29, 2010 at 9:45 PM

    This question is endless and really wide interspersed with a lot of thoughts, reflections and opinions from different perspectives. It is a really good question I have to say, because its time for us all to wake up and realize the suffering the humankind still goes through today. We (the human kind) never seem to learn to accept and counter our mates with a dash of respect. We look back in history and shake our heads when we read about the horrifying occurrences that took place for so long ago. Ethnic and religious cleansing, people being oppressed for their opinions, people standing as strong as unmovable mountains getting their feet chopped because of their identity, women and men being put to tests to prove their innocence for witchery, racism and slavery, unnecessary battles concerning land-territories and money and so on, are just a few examples of the stupidity through the humankind history. Somehow, we developed from the cave-mans with wood-clubs to intelligent human beings with social competence, emotional understanding (solidarity and empathy) and the ability to express ourselves. As said before, we look back and shake our heads. But we don’t realize that we do the same mistake all over just that new victims are found every time. This time it seems to be the Homosexuals. Homosexuality has existed for many hundred and maybe even thousand years, and then you can ask yourself, is it really a question of nurture because the society then didn’t look like it looks like today. There are presence of homosexuality in almost every corner in our world in diverse societies, environments and aspects so is homosexuality THAT influenced by society? People might have treated an individual tremendously bad, such as a girl getting raped by a man, can be a reason of why she gets scarred for life and feel hate and disliking towards the male gender. By this some people also find it as a safety and comfort to be with the same gender. Also some people are tempted to do the “forbidden” and by this I mean that people with pure curiosity do what they are not supposed to do (concerning the countries with strict opinions about homosexuality) and find out that they actually feel attracted to the same gender. I think that the society has a huge impact on the individual feeling afraid of express his/her sexual orientation. Of course the society affects once choice and once reasoning at some scale but I think that you are just the way you are. I wouldn’t say that homosexuality is in the nature of genetics either, but rather that it is in the human nature.
    If we can express hate towards the same gender why not express love to the same gender? I mean after all, the ones being homosexual/bisexual express love and not hate, I don’t find any harm that they cause our world; in fact they are very caring and nice. Homosexuality and bisexuality has for a very long time been a question reflecting a rose-root being frozen under earth. It’s time for it to blossom and breathe, expand its colorful leaves and being accepted on earth by the ones seeing it. Love is unexplainable.


  7. Posted by Arisa on October 5, 2010 at 10:17 PM

    I think it’s a choice; a choice to follow your feelings, but not a choice to get attacked by prejudices, hate or get degraded. I don’t think homosexuality is something you’re born with and therefor I don’t think it’s a disease of any kind or a trait that can be transferred through your genes. I do believe though that it has to do with human nature in that sense it’s a part of “nature” to feel lust and want love. In this case, heterosexuality and homosexuality are highlighted but we should also not forget that there’s “bisexuality”. Is there really three sexualities (hetero; homo; bi) or in fact just one which would in this case be bisexuality, and that hetero- and homosexuality is just “subcategories”? But that’s another question to answer.

    We humans are so eager to define things and categorise it and that’s fine, it makes life easier but somethings are better left alone, and all you can do is accept it or atleast respect it, especielly if it doesn’t harm anyone. If there’s something that we have yet to learn from history it’s that we need to start accepting each other, and if that’s not possible, we should be able to respect one another. As long as we humans can not learn to fend the feelings of having anyone elses pain in order to feel pleasure (with other words; stop looking down on each other, and reach out to help one another instead of striving to be superior), we have a long way to go. We read about history, we shake our heads about how the white people treated the black, how Hitler banished and actually had people kill the jews, how the people in history over and over again killed one another because they felt that the others weren’t worth just as much as themselves, but are we any better today?

    We constantly look for flaws in another person in order to have a reason to hate; is this the way we should be feeling? Is this the way we should make ourselves feel good by making another person feel bad? As far as I’m concerned, the future is not about creating more and more technology or becoming richer, but it’s the day that we as humans learn to help one another, when the word “sincere” has finally been fullfilled and when we can all live together at peace.

    To get back on the topic about homosexuality, I absolutely agree with Mariami has said and that in the “nurture” part, I believe that it’s still your own choice to follow your feelings. Some people even restrain these feelings because it’s not legal in their country and they would be killed. As well as I also believe the theory with the “rape”-scenario, or to state in a more general perspective, that something traumatic event that occured in that persons life which makes it hard to trust the people of the opposite sex.

    But when it all comes down to it, we’re all humans and that’s what matters. Loving can never be bad and if it is, then it probably isn’t Love at all.


  8. Posted by Suphattra on October 5, 2010 at 10:27 PM

    Mariami, is that an essay?? so longgggggg hehe


  9. Posted by Nana on October 5, 2010 at 11:16 PM

    I don’t think you were born gay, I know I wasn’t.
    And you don’t choose it either. It is all about your feelings. If you are a guy who is attracted to another guy, then it is not a choice, and that is why many people want to keep it to themselves and not tell people.
    And I can say that you are not misarable once you’re “out”. It feels great! And if you are really gay, you have nothing to be ashamed of, love is something beautiful, no matter who shares it with you. So why should you be ashamed?
    Anyways. You don’t choose it, but I don’t think that it is a gene either, cuz where would I have gotten it from? no one in my family is gay or bisexual..
    Peace xD


  10. Sexuality? What does that even mean? I don’t think anyone’s sexuality is set in stone. I think you get attracted to a person because… You find something there that appeals to you, sexually, emotionally, whatever. I don’t think anyone is attracted to a specific sex. I think you fall for the person itself, the traits, the features.
    I also think that generalising sexuality into something hereditary or that one may choose it, is wrong. It’s undermining, because putting a label like that on someone’s sexuality is automatically crippling them, their feelings and their rights. Because everyone has the same rights. No matter what sexual preference (meaning what sex you PREFER, not what you always go for), no matter what religion, nothing.


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